I wish you can enlighten me with what to do in line with the battle that I am facing right now. Late last year I delivered a healthy baby boy and a few weeks after I spent my Maternity leave back in our province with my baby. My husband was left all alone here due to his work; We had this huge fight when it reached to my knowledge that there’s this one night that he never went home to our place, later I knew that his x-gf for over 4years is here in Phils for vacation. After such fight, he never communicated with me for almost a month; I was losing hope and spent sleepless nights under pain and fear that my marriage will fail. Few days prior I return to work, his ex-gf texted me pushing that I need to let go of my husband since he still loves her. Upon getting back here in Manila, I stayed @ my cousin’s place hence that I decided to resign and totally leave my husband coz for me, him keeping mum about the issue is a justification that everything was all true. When I get a chance to talk to my husband that was a week after I’m back in Manila, he explained to me that he was pissed off with me judging him directly, that I concluded that he was with his x-gf and he was furious of me not trusting him. he asked for us not to part ways and for us to start our family together with our baby. I went to our province to get our baby and was happy to start anew; but prior Christmas, I found a sim card on his bag, upon inserting it, all of the messages was from his ex telling a lot of stuffs about me like how kawawa I am and there I found out that she’s pregnant. I was shocked but I stayed calm, I cried but still had the guts to confront my husband in a very modest way. He first denied it but I told him to at least be honest this time. It made me realize that just after a month that I delivered our baby he impregnated his mistress and still has that energy to not communicate with me for over 1month coz he was pissed that I already have judged him. And now, totoo naman pala lahat ng duda ko sa kanya nuon.basically even tho nagkasala ang asawa ko still na kita ko naman na he’s trying his best so for me to stay.
What just strikes my ego as a wife, mother and person:
• Early this year I learned that my husband’s mother borrowed money to his mistress which na napag awayan nmin ng sobra2. It even reached to the point na I walked out at 10pm carrying my baby and slept in the airport and took the first flight going to our province. She’s the mother of my husband she should have the decency to at least lay a lil respect to me as her son’s wife and knowing the fact na ang laki ng kasalanan ng anak nya skin.
• The mistress often emails my husband pushing him to make his stand so he will be happy at nang mag kasama na cla at maggng baby nla
• She mentioned on one of her emails recently that my husband’s family are already worried kac bakit dw wala cyang cellphone at hndi mn lang nag re reply sa emails nya.
• She even stated on her email na she wants us three to face each other pra mag usap2 kac dw alam nman dw nya na my husband loves her more. And shes hoping dw na magkaroon na courage ang husband ko na sabihin skin na hes leaving me for her.
I am still with my husband coz somehow I want to fight for my marriage but Im running out of patience not for my husband but for the mistress and sa mother nya. By next month, his mistress wl give birth and hes asking if it is okey to have baby’s last name under his name. I have this strong feeling that possibly in a few months time, give up na ako and Im planning to file a case against him pra mka get back sa kanya, sa babae nya at mother nya. So they will feel what I have been feeling all this time, ung pain and pity for myself, disrespected, emotionally abused.
I want them to learn na hndi game ang pnasukan namin na responsibilidad. Hindi joke2x ang kasal namin at sana maisip nla na asawa ako at me anak kami. Kung gusto nmin mag hiwalay kami ang mag decide nun hindi ung cla ang mag push sa tao na sirain ang pamilya nya.
Can I file charges for psychological violence and concubinage? How about the mistress? What legal action is applicable?
What documents,scenarios or proof should I need to provide so I can file a strong case?
Any advice from you is much appreciated;
Apologies kng masyadong novela ang message ko. I just need to burst out my feelings and Im even planning to consult a psychologist just to seek medical advice.
Thanks a million