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1 i have an affair with a married woman. on Wed Mar 20, 2013 11:23 pm

jeromegarcia


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i have a case here. to make it short and simple.. eto ang storya ko..
I am single and may girlfriend ako for 4 years na. may anak na sya sa iba..and kasal siya. yung asawa nya alam naman nya ang relationship namin. last month we she just had another baby boy and ako ang ama.. i am still a student..kakatapos ko lng ng clerkship last year and pero may mga make up duty pa akong di natatapos. so basically di ako graduate pa.. di ko na tinapos dahil nabuntis ko gf ko and need nya ako pra mag alaga sa kanya.. last mnth nag rent kami ng pad dahil sobrang complicated ang sitwasyon namin..galit yung parents nya sa akin and pati father ko galit na rin sa kanya. so nag decide kami mag rent na lng ng pad. since wala akong work di ko nakayanan ang pag rent..so the other day lng is bumalik kami sa bahay namin.. ayaw ng gf ko nun..dahiil, 1st gusto nya magkasama kami magpalaki sa anak namin. 2nd ayaw na yung hiram sa amin and hiram sa kanila ang bata. Prinanka ko sya,..sabi ko.. wala akong pera para pang rent ng bahay. instead i rent natin ang pera. sa pang immunization and gatas muna ang unahin natin. di na kmi nagkakaunawaan.. dumating sa point na kakasuhan nya daw ako. dahil hindi ko raw maibigay ang pangangailangan ng bata. kung mahihirapan sya.mahihirapan din ako and pamilya ko..


my questions are:
1. Anong pwede ma file ng case sa akin dahil legally married yung girlfriend ko. and sa akin nakapangalan ang birth certificate ng anak ko..pwede ba ganun? married sya pero sa akin naka pngalan ang baby?

2. Anong case pwede ifile sa akin since married yung gf ko.

3. since illegitimate ang baby ko, kaninong custody ba sya mapupunta? may habol ba ako sa anak ko? pwede ba sya sa akin mapunta?


i just need some advice from our brother dito.
Binigay ko na kasi lahat na makakaya ko..kami sa pamilya ko ang gumastos na sa pang pa hospital nya at repeat CS pa sya ha? walang philhealt.naka suite room pa.. hehe lahat ng needs ng baby ko binigay ko din naman.. ang hindi ko lng tlaga kaya is magsama kami sa iisang bahay coz di ko na kaya financially... tapos nag tthreatened na sya na kakasuhan ako and ilalayo ang bata sa akin at di na ako kikilalaning ama? but i still love my girlfriend though..

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2 Re: i have an affair with a married woman. on Wed Mar 20, 2013 11:24 pm

jeromegarcia


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hope you could help me guys.. ano ba dapat na gawin ko?

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3 Re: i have an affair with a married woman. on Thu Mar 21, 2013 12:14 am

jeromegarcia


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i was not expecting this scenario since open naman ang relationship namin sa public...

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4 Re: i have an affair with a married woman. on Thu Mar 21, 2013 12:37 am

jeromegarcia


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still no advice? Sad

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5 Re: i have an affair with a married woman. on Thu Mar 21, 2013 2:41 am

AWV


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Wala kang dapat ikatakot at baka sya pang ang makasuhan! kung susuportahan mo ang anak mo walang dahilan para makulong ka, instead sya pa ang makakasuhan ng concubinage ng asawa nya! at dahil kasal sya sa asawa nya kapag nanggulo pa sya sa iyo sya lang ang mababaliktad sa bandang huli! an lakas naman ng loob nyang mag stir ng trouble! Rolling Eyes

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6 Re: i have an affair with a married woman. on Thu Mar 21, 2013 12:29 pm

jeromegarcia


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AWV wrote:Wala kang dapat ikatakot at baka sya pang ang makasuhan! kung susuportahan mo ang anak mo walang dahilan para makulong ka, instead sya pa ang makakasuhan ng concubinage ng asawa nya! at dahil kasal sya sa asawa nya kapag nanggulo pa sya sa iyo sya lang ang mababaliktad sa bandang huli! an lakas naman ng loob nyang mag stir ng trouble! Rolling Eyes

thanks sa reply.. di na kasi kami nagkaka intindihan.. dahil hindi ako makaprovide ng pang monthly na bahay namin 3.. nagkakagulo na kming dalawa... di ko na kasi iniisip muna ang monthly na bahay since priority ko muna ang mga gagastusin sa bata...sayang din ang onthly rentals kasi..kaya ayun ngtthreatend na..


ang malaking probs ko ay, magkaibigan pa rin ang gf ko at yung dati nyang kinakasama in which legally married pa sila..pati yung lalake nag tthreatend na kakasuhan ako kapag di ko kayang panindigan ang gf ko.. parang hawak ako sa leeg kasi.. ok sana ang gf ko..ayaw ko lng yung ginagamit niya ang pananakot nya lalo na sa anak ko..masunod lang ang gusto nya..

ano ba pwede kong gawin?

kasalanan ko din kasi hindi ko inasikaso ang annulment nila before.. willing sana gumastos ang parents ko ma annulled sila since alam ng dad ko di pa ako capable makaproduce ng ganun kalaking pera pang pabayad sa annullment process..

sa mga na research ko is pwede ata akng kasuhan ng asawa nya ng alienation of affection.. pero di ko alam ang whole definition nito and di ko alam kng anong parusa ang pwedeng maibigay sa akin.. ang alam ko lng hindi ito criminal act..


i feel betrayed kase.. i thought ok lng ang relationship namin since open kami sa public..problema lng daming against sa relationship namin...

gusto ko rin sana malaman if pwede sa akin ang custody ang bata since illegitimate na anak ang baby ko kase legally married pa sya..

kung sa sustento sa bata.. wala akong trabaho pero willing ang parents ko gumastos para sa baby ko habang wala pa akong work...

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7 Re: i have an affair with a married woman. on Thu Mar 21, 2013 12:36 pm

jeromegarcia


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this day lng.. nagkausap kami.. pinipilit nya akng makahanap ng bahay namn ngayon..at kung hindi ako maka provide this day, give up na sya sa akin and ilalayo na nya ang anak ko sa kanya.. babalik daw sya sa asawa nya isnce nandun ang isa nyang anak..atleast daw makakasama nya 2 nyang anak... anak ng tinapa naman tong sitwasyon ko.. ako gumastos lahat from day 1 na nabuntis siya hanggang ngayon and masyadong attach na ako sa anak ko! tapos dahil hindi ako makaprovide ng bahay ngayon ganun ang gagawin nya and nagtthreatened pa na kaksuhan nya ako at ng asawa nya daw.. gaganti daw sya sa akin dahil pina asa ko raw sya... hay nako! kinausap ko naman sya ng maayos na temporary di k muna kaya yung ganun kasi prioirty ko ang anak namin sa gastusin..hayy nako...nananakot pa na reclusion perpetua daw ang case? hehe di ko alam yang mga ganyan... tulong po... ano ba ang dapat kng gawin?

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8 Re: i have an affair with a married woman. on Thu Mar 21, 2013 1:13 pm

jeromegarcia


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follow up question po..

if magdecide ako na mag continue muna ako ng pag aaral ng medicine and magttake ako ng board? maapektuhan po ba ito kng magffile sila ng case against sa akin?
plan ko sana kasi is sacrifice muna kami na malayo muna habang tatapusin ko lng ang internship ko.. and habang wala ako.. kami bahala sa lahat ng gastusin sa bata...

pero hindi akomaka pagdecide mag aral coz ayaw na ng gf ko..and di nya raw kaya alagaan ang anak namin na sya lang mag isa.. nag offer ako na isasama ko sya sa isang bahay lang dun sa laguna habang nag iinternship ako paramagkasama pa rin kami..kaso ayaw nya rin yang option na yan kasi ayaw nya rin malayo sa isa nyang anak... kaya napilitan akong mag sacrifice kasi partly may kasalanan din ako na dapat na tapos ko na ang internship ko 1 year ago.. dahil sa failure sa grades eh na repeat ako ng 1 year..kaya ngayon ayaw na ng gf ko na lumayo ako ulit at maghintay sya ng another year malayo sa akin...

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9 Re: i have an affair with a married woman. on Thu Mar 21, 2013 2:10 pm

jeromegarcia


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any advice po?

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10 Re: i have an affair with a married woman. on Thu Mar 21, 2013 3:09 pm

jeromegarcia


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i have read here that it is illegal to put your surname in your baby's birth certificate since if your partner is still legally married.. if the legal husband will compliant about this? what will happen to my baby? what will happen to me?

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11 Re: i have an affair with a married woman. on Thu Mar 21, 2013 4:01 pm

attyLLL


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you and she can be charged with adultery.

when you take the exams, the husband can file a complaint at prc to block it due to immorality.

in spite of what is stated on the birth certificate, the law will presume that the husband is the true father.


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12 Re: i have an affair with a married woman. on Thu Mar 21, 2013 4:29 pm

jeromegarcia


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attyLLL wrote:you and she can be charged with adultery.

when you take the exams, the husband can file a complaint at prc to block it due to immorality.

in spite of what is stated on the birth certificate, the law will presume that the husband is the true father.

ganun po ba sir? Sad
anytime pwede pala akng kasuhan na?the husband knows our relationship from the start and pinabayaan din naman nya kami... Sad ang problema lang po kase is willing mag file ng case ang husband nya kapag sinabi din ng gf ko...ewan ko ba bakit ganun? hawak ako sa leeg.. para lang daw maka ganti sa akin..


so ano ang pinaka best na gawin ko po?

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13 Re: i have an affair with a married woman. on Thu Mar 21, 2013 5:38 pm

attyLLL


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ah, he has to file the case of adultery against you both, not just you.


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14 Re: i have an affair with a married woman. on Thu Mar 21, 2013 6:19 pm

jeromegarcia


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attyLLL wrote:ah, he has to file the case of adultery against you both, not just you.
any advice po on what should i do?

di ko kase inixpect to coz may verbal agreement kmi before na wala nang akialamanan..ngayon para nagiba kase ang ihip ng hangin...

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15 Re: i have an affair with a married woman. on Fri Mar 22, 2013 4:00 pm

jeromegarcia


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any advice guys on what should i do?

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16 Re: i have an affair with a married woman. on Fri Mar 22, 2013 5:52 pm

Babes20


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As per advice naman ni Atty LLL, if the husband will file a case against you obviously pati asawa nya madadamay. And to think, na concern naman sya sa wife nya not sure kung magffile pa rin sya.
Blackmail na lang siguro yan kase the girl wants to be back to her husband. Para paraan.

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17 Re: i have an affair with a married woman. on Fri Mar 22, 2013 9:33 pm

tekya


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Mukha yatang namemera lang gf mo, kung mahal ka nya kaya sumama sayo dapat maintindihan nya situation nyo.Pero sa story mo mukhang nagpabuntis lang para sa support e. Why would she threaten you when shes the one married? Kung kakasuhan ka nila, damay din yung gf mo.

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18 Re: i have an affair with a married woman. on Sat Mar 23, 2013 1:17 am

jeromegarcia


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Babes20 wrote:As per advice naman ni Atty LLL, if the husband will file a case against you obviously pati asawa nya madadamay. And to think, na concern naman sya sa wife nya not sure kung magffile pa rin sya.
Blackmail na lang siguro yan kase the girl wants to be back to her husband. Para paraan.


i doubt na magffile yung asawa nya.. pero i am expecting for worse... anytime pwede nyanaman balikan husband nya..wala namang probs yan sa akin kng ayaw na nya tlga sa akin...and wala din akong probs sa ag suporta sa bata... tutlongan naman ako ng parents ko habang wala pa akong stabl na income...

ang problem is..she is asking na magkasama kaming 3... and dinya maintindihan na impraktikal a as of now na magtira kami sa bahay kase masyadong magastos... tuubig kuryente daily food..lahat.. marami.. mas priority ko sana ang gastos sa bata... eh ayaw nya ng ganun..so umabot kmi sa point about sa case2..

i knowing her.. possible na gawin ya yun..just to prove a point..

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19 Re: i have an affair with a married woman. on Sat Mar 23, 2013 1:23 am

jeromegarcia


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tekya wrote:Mukha yatang namemera lang gf mo, kung mahal ka nya kaya sumama sayo dapat maintindihan nya situation nyo.Pero sa story mo mukhang nagpabuntis lang para sa support e. Why would she threaten you when shes the one married? Kung kakasuhan ka nila, damay din yung gf mo.

di naman siguro coz wala naman tlaga syang nakukuha sa akin...hehe and about sa support? wala naman akng poroblema dun... ayaw ko lng tlga mg stay kami sa isang bahay coz wala akng pera..and ayaw din kmi tulungan ng parents ko nyan kase nga impraktikal na...

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20 Re: i have an affair with a married woman. on Sat Mar 23, 2013 7:41 am

japonix


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hi. i have same view as Atty LLL, you may be liable for adultery. proof of carnal knowledge of the married woman is your son / written acknowledgement by you that the child is your son.

knowledge by the husband of your relationship may be appreciated as Pardon by the husband who is the offended party in the case of adultery. the effect of pardon is that it becomes a bar to the prosecution of adultery. meaning husband's move to file a case would not prosper. but you need to prove that he really agreed sa set up ninyo.

re: the request/demand for support of your GF, since the kid is yours, you have an obligation to support at the very least your kid. non-provision of support may make you liable under the VAWC Act. (Anti Violence Against Women and their Children Law).

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21 Re: i have an affair with a married woman. on Sat Mar 23, 2013 12:34 pm

jeromegarcia


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japonix wrote:hi. i have same view as Atty LLL, you may be liable for adultery. proof of carnal knowledge of the married woman is your son / written acknowledgement by you that the child is your son.

knowledge by the husband of your relationship may be appreciated as Pardon by the husband who is the offended party in the case of adultery. the effect of pardon is that it becomes a bar to the prosecution of adultery. meaning husband's move to file a case would not prosper. but you need to prove that he really agreed sa set up ninyo.

re: the request/demand for support of your GF, since the kid is yours, you have an obligation to support at the very least your kid. non-provision of support may make you liable under the VAWC Act. (Anti Violence Against Women and their Children Law).

thank you sa reply po sir..di ko kase alam kng anong proof na maipapakita ko na ok ang husband coz di lng nya kami pinapakialaman..although may pics siya and with my son.. can it be used as a proof? na ok lng sa kanya na may anak na kmi and yng guy may new gf na din though hindi nya inaamin sa asawa nya dahil nahihiya siguro... about sa support.wala naman akng problema doon..from the start sinabi ko na ako bahala sa bata... pwede ko ba syang kasuhan for extortion and moral damages coz parang gnagamit nya ang bata panakot sa akin?

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