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Nakabuntis po ako..... pero hindi ko mahal yung babae.

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patulongpopls


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Nakabuntis po ako, pero hindi ko mahal yung babae.nagkalabuan lang po kme ng GF ko kaya ko nagawa yun. ano po ba yung pede ko gawin para hindi ako makasuhan? handa naman po ako sustentuhan yung magiging anak namin. ayoko lng pakasal sa kanya.. salamat po!

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nsmbatangas


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patulongpopls wrote:Nakabuntis po ako, pero hindi ko mahal yung babae.nagkalabuan lang po kme ng GF ko kaya ko nagawa yun. ano po ba yung pede ko gawin para hindi ako makasuhan? handa naman po ako sustentuhan yung magiging anak namin. ayoko lng pakasal sa kanya.. salamat po!

Menor de eded ba ang nabuntis mo?

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patulongpopls


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legal age po sya.. para na lang sana sa bata. ok lng nmn na pangalan ko dalhin at sustentuhan ko.

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nsmbatangas


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1. kung single ka at single din yung babaeng nabuntis mo at pareho kayong nasa tamang edad Wala silang pwedeng ikaso sa yo unless otherwise they accused you of raping the girl, to get even with u at sa pagtanggi mong pakasal s babaeng nabuntis mo. Yun ang ingatan Mong wag mangyari. Nevertheless they have to prove it naman sa court.

Another question? How sure are you na ikaw nag ang father?




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patulongpopls


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nangyari naman yun sa bahay nung babae at kilala ako ng family nya, so maari pa din ba ako makasuhan ng rape nun?.. i know na sa akin yung bata..

Thanks po sa pag sagot ^_^

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nsmbatangas


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Kahit nangyari yun sa harap ng magulang nya, ang point ko ay : Kung gugustuhin nila an gantihan ka at pagdusahin dahil tumanggi kang pakasalan ang babae then isa yun sa pupwede nilang gawin.

On your part naman, try to be nice sa family ng babaeng nabuntis mo para di nila maisipang gantihan ka. Don't make stupid excuses like, nagawa mo Lang yun just because nagkalabuan kayo ng gf mo.

Try to explain to them that you cannot get married because u r not yet ready for such commitment, but stress to the family that u will not abandon your child and that u will try to be a responsible father to your kid.

If you denied your baby support then u could face cases like abandonment or they could file a claim against you.

Pero walang batas na pwedeng pumilit sa yo na pakasal sa isang babae na di mo gusto.

Later on, Kung magpakasal ka at magka pamilya ng iba, magka anak ulit, sa lahat ng maiipundar Mong properties may karapatan yang baby mo na yan, so be aware and be prepare.



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patulongpopls


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ganito po.. yung gf ko po talaga, two years na kame.. and lately nagkalabuan kami.. so pumasok ngayun itong girl sa nagka usap kme at nagka kwentuhan.. nagkaroon kme ng tawagan kunwari kahit hindi naman kami mag on. then later on nagkita nga kami at may nangyari sa amin ndi lng isa or dalawa cguro. then napunta din sya sa bahay at nakilala ng family ko without her knowing na alam ng family ko na may gf ako. but pinagalitan nmn ako ng family ko. now po yung gf ko pinaalam sa girl yung naging relasyon namin since nalaman nya yung nangyari. kaya nagka loko loko. yung gf ko ba maari din ako kasuhan? may sinasabi syang woman act na pedeng gamitin ng babae sa akin na dahil alam ng family ko na may gf ako e bat itinago? e that time naman talagang nagkakalabuan kme ng GF ko. then sinasabihan ako ng GF ko na problema pa nga lang daw sa girl yan. hindi pa daw nag sisimula yung sa kanya.

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attyLLL


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your legal obligation is only to provide support for the child.

if there is a threat that they will file rape against you, then you should be compiling evidence for your defense.

i do not think vawc can be used by your gf for this case. be courteous in all your communication.


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patulongpopls


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Thank you po.. nakikipag communicate po kmi sa babae para maayos yung gusot na to. and i am willing naman na i-support yung bata. its just that ayoko lng na makasuhan ng kung ano man. and could you give me any advice na maari sabihin sa babae para naman po at least makapagpa kalma sa kanya at matangap nya yung alok ko na sustentuhan na lang yung bata?

Maraming salamat po sa malaking tulong nyo attorneys.. More power po!

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raheemerick


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try to tell her the truth. you dnt love her and its unfair to bind you together if theres no love feeling bet the 2 of you. though it might hurt her feelings? but she dnt have a choice to accept it. but considirations naman sa nasaktang babae. dnt show oviously that your inlove to some1 else but not her. ofcorz masakit yun sa part nya. its a lesson learn that sa mga gantong pag kakataon at pang yayari? nasa babae ang huling pag durusa at sakit ng damdamin. while si lalake naman ay na momroblema lng how to setle things and escape to posibilities. yet you might have a guilty feelings for the girl na nabuntis mo? but it wont change the fact na na agrabyado ang babae.

this is not just between you and your gf and the other girl. consider the child too.

love over everythng..

1. ask your self. what you really want. the girl na mahal mo talaga ang gusto mong makasama, kapalit ng habag para sa isang babae at sa dinadala nito. kaya mo bang maging masaya kung alam mong may na agrabyado kang iba?

2. manindigan ka sa nagawa mo. panagutan mo at maging responsable sa na buntis mo at maging ama sa magiging anak mo. kapalit ng hndi pag kakaroon ng saya sa sariling kagustuhan dahil hndi ang babaeng mahal mo ang makaka sama mo.

think hard. think deep. feel and consider many things..

the girl you love for your own hapines over guilty feelings para sa babaeng nabuntis mo at sa dinadala nito.

or? panagutan mo at maging responsable sa babae at s amagiging anak mo over the her na mahal mo at gusto mong makasama.?

if i wer you bro.? il go dun sa nabuntis ko. i believe that napag aaralan ang mag mahal. karamihan sa mga lalake na nakaka dama ng kaligayahan sa sandaling makitang nasa maayos na estado ang mga anak nila.. hndi lng tugon sa material at finacial na bagay ang kailangan ng isang anak.

maaring naka sakit ka ng isa kung maninindigan ka sa nagawa mo.. pero kaya mo bang piliin na wag masaktan ang gf mo at manatili sa kanya? kung sa isip mo ay may 2 tao kang maaring mas higit pa sa sakit ng kalooban ang dinadanas at dadanasin pa sa hinaharap dahil sa hndi mo paninidigan sa kanila..?

anyway. ang akin ay sa sariling opinyon ko lng. anot ano man? ikaw ang mas nakaka alam ng tama para sayo, sa kanila, at sa kanya.

di bale.. set a plan. di it in a shotgun wedding:)
after a years if hndi mag work out ang marital life nyo ng nabuntis mo? use it as a ground to file annulment Smile

then pag single na ulit??


party..party!!! wwiiwwiitt!! Smile


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nsmbatangas


Arresto Menor
Ganito, gumawa ka ng letter of intention attention to that woman na sustentuhan mo ang bata. Ipanotarised mo, bigyan ng copy ang babae at papirmahin mo na narecieve nya ang kanyang copy.

Itanong mo ang sked ng check up nya, pa check up mo, bilhan mo vitamins, dalhan mo ng pagkain n gusto. Simulan mo ng magpaka AMA sa baby. Para may magaganda Kang pwedeng ikwento sa anak mo paglaki nya.

Manuyo ka tutal my atraso ka. Malay mo later on ma inlove k n s babae.

At yang mga pagbabanta ng ex mo ay wag Mong pansinin dhl wala patutunguhan yan.

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cire212215


Prision Correccional
i agree with nsmbatangas, wag po pabayaan ung gurl, pero kung di ka sure then wag mo muna pakasalan. ung ex gf mo, ignore her. baket ka tinatakot para gantihan ka?
kung mahal ka nya pipilitin ka nya intindihin.

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attyLLL


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in my experience, as long as the parties are still talking, then there will always be a chance for an amicable settlement.


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patulongpopls


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hi! may question now is this... nag msg po ako sa girl na sabi ko ndi ko sya mahal but handa ako tumulong para sa bata... but hindi sya nag reply sa akin... if ever na ba na naipanganak na nya yung bata.. maari pa din nya akong kulitin para sa sustento since ndi naman syua nakipag coordinate? thanks po!

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attyLLL


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at any point, she can ask for support. best to send your offer in a letter.


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patulongpopls


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nagkabalikan po kze kme ng GF ko.. and the girl found about it.. and madami syanng pinag sasabi sa gf ko na ikakagalit sa akin ng GF ko.. and before she was threatening me na kesyo malaking pamilya sila.. baka daw anu mgawa nila sa amin. do i have any defense para sa ganyan? thanks po!

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attyLLL


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are you providing for your child? did you communicate?


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patulongpopls


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yes we do have ask if there are any help we could give.. ang sabi ng babae ndi na daw kailangan.. and said that hindi na daw sila mag hahabol at hindi ako ipapakilala bilang ama... kung yun po ang gusto nila.. makakapag demand pa din ba sila ng support? since sila ang nag sabi ng hindi sila mag hahabol? hindi din naman ako nag hahabol sa bata at ang akin lng ay kung di din naman pala sila mag hahabol, dapat ba ako hingan ng sustento? thank you po!

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attyLLL


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the child will always have the right to support.


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hopia


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Good Morning po...

I have the same situation...
Kaya lang po ako kasal na pero hiwalay hindi nga lng po legally almost 7 years na kaming hiwalay ng asawa ko.

Nabuntis ko po ung GF ko now kaya lng nag aalangan po ako kasi nung kami pa ang dami nyang ka sex na lalake at niloko nya ako last year. Sya po ay 21 years old at 3rd year college at ako naman po ay 30 years old. Ang nanay nya po for sure pag nalaman susugurin ako sa trabaho at ung kuya nya po ay pulis.

Ano po ba ang dapat kong gawin.

Maraming Salamat po

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attyLLL


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dna test will tell you the truth. meanwhile , you have no legal obligation to acknowledge the child.


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hopia


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Maraming Salamat po sa reply attyLLL

hindi naman po pala buntis, atty ask ko na din po ung bestfriend nya tinatakot ako thru text, like "wag ko daw syang susubukan, d ko daw alam kung ano kaya nyang gawin" nanakot d nya alam na ung friend nya ang unang nanloko sa akin...

pde ko po ba syang ihabla?

thankyou and God Bless you more attyLLL

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attyLLL


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you already dodged a bullet. let the thing die down.


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loopee


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hi, bago po ako d2 and i found this forum to somewhat stand on my side. but some things are different on me so ineed an additional advice. ganito po kase. nakabuntis ako and the girl was my ex.we are in legal ages. then pinauna ko n po nung nalaman ko yun na suuportahan ko yung bata. days after she told me na ininuman nya yung bata ng pampalaglag kasi daw ang pwd ko lng daw ibigay n tulong ay ung sa bata to shorten up gusto nya kmi mgsama and be the husband and father.. well the reason po ng paghihiwalay namin ay we always argue thins about.. inshort were not in goodterms, hindi nadin po namin gusto ugali ng isat isa, and i think its better to say na hindi ko n sya mahal than saying kinamumuhian ko sya and im traumatized by her, may 3rd party kc n involved and in my case ako yun.. some what niloko nya ako saying d n cla nung ex nya but then cla pa.. habang kame pa. what i feel is like iniputan nila ako sa ulo.. wla po akong love life ngayon its been about 2 months only since buntis sya. im not opt to look for a love ngayon kc what ive thru is the darkes part of my life. i still have comms with her just to show na di ako nagtatago for some obligation which is my child in her.then po sometime sinabe nya sakin na di daw sakin yung bata kc may nang yare sakanila nung ex/real boyfriend nya bago samin. iwas hurt again its like pinipikot nyako diba. that what i knew bago pumasok yung family nya sa story. then pumasok n po yung family nya telling me na ano bang plano ko.. sinabe ko po iniputan po ako sa ulo and cla pa nung bf nya in a mannered way.. at yun n po ang umikot na istorya sa side nila and now shell telling me sinabe nya lang po daw na dun sa bf nya yung bata just to save me. its looks to me na gumawa sya ng kwento to save me from the kwento na ginawa nya. she may have use that to impress me but honestly po hindi and it even made things worst than worst. thats how she formulate her ideas and facilitate things around her and thats one reason that keeps me away from her. (sakin nya lang po sinabe na akin pla tlga yung bata) at dahil nga po yun family nya ang alam ay yung isa ang ama or alin man samin nung ex ni babae so ang sabe po nila ay ipapa dna yung bata. pina abot ko po sa family nya na dina po kelangan yun ksi kung sakin yun ay di naman ako nagbabago ng initial stance ko na susuportahan ko yung bata its just a waste of money on their side. then tong si babae po ay nag propopose na ngayon na paglabs daw nung bata ay sakin n daw yung bta(which a possibility of abnormality in the child is present)hindi din po alam pa ng family side nya na ganun gusto nya gawin. ang point ko po ngayon ay dahil nga po ininuman nya ng pampalaglag yung bata at di nalaglag. is that a some sort of frustrated murder? or a negligence? a some sort of motherly incapacitatedness? and a some sort of abandonment in her side as a mother ?(sorry for terms not good in english) am i or the child entitled to a form of (danyos)? or is she obliged to help the child aswell. parang nabaliktad po ako po yung humihinge ng payment for what she have done to the child. is there any provision or part of our law strengthening my side? i would greatly appreciate your precious replies thanks in advance.

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loopee


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hi, bago po ako d2 and i found this forum to somewhat stand on my side. but some things are different on me so ineed an additional advice. ganito po kase. nakabuntis ako and the girl was my ex.we are in legal ages. then pinauna ko n po nung nalaman ko yun na suuportahan ko yung bata. days after she told me na ininuman nya yung bata ng pampalaglag kasi daw ang pwd ko lng daw ibigay n tulong ay ung sa bata to shorten up gusto nya kmi mgsama and be the husband and father.. well the reason po ng paghihiwalay namin ay we always argue thins about.. inshort were not in goodterms, hindi nadin po namin gusto ugali ng isat isa, and i think its better to say na hindi ko n sya mahal than saying kinamumuhian ko sya and im traumatized by her, may 3rd party kc n involved and in my case ako yun.. some what niloko nya ako saying d n cla nung ex nya but then cla pa.. habang kame pa. what i feel is like iniputan nila ako sa ulo.. wla po akong love life ngayon its been about 2 months only since buntis sya. im not opt to look for a love ngayon kc what ive thru is the darkes part of my life. i still have comms with her just to show na di ako nagtatago for some obligation which is my child in her.then po sometime sinabe nya sakin na di daw sakin yung bata kc may nang yare sakanila nung ex/real boyfriend nya bago samin. iwas hurt again its like pinipikot nyako diba. that what i knew bago pumasok yung family nya sa story. then pumasok n po yung family nya telling me na ano bang plano ko.. sinabe ko po iniputan po ako sa ulo and cla pa nung bf nya in a mannered way.. at yun n po ang umikot na istorya sa side nila and now shell telling me sinabe nya lang po daw na dun sa bf nya yung bata just to save me. its looks to me na gumawa sya ng kwento to save me from the kwento na ginawa nya. she may have use that to impress me but honestly po hindi and it even made things worst than worst. thats how she formulate her ideas and facilitate things around her and thats one reason that keeps me away from her. (sakin nya lang po sinabe na akin pla tlga yung bata) at dahil nga po yun family nya ang alam ay yung isa ang ama or alin man samin nung ex ni babae so ang sabe po nila ay ipapa dna yung bata. pina abot ko po sa family nya na dina po kelangan yun ksi kung sakin yun ay di naman ako nagbabago ng initial stance ko na susuportahan ko yung bata its just a waste of money on their side. then tong si babae po ay nag propopose na ngayon na paglabs daw nung bata ay sakin n daw yung bta(which a possibility of abnormality in the child is present)hindi din po alam pa ng family side nya na ganun gusto nya gawin. ang point ko po ngayon ay dahil nga po ininuman nya ng pampalaglag yung bata at di nalaglag. is that a some sort of frustrated murder? or a negligence? a some sort of motherly incapacitatedness? and a some sort of abandonment in her side as a mother ?(sorry for terms not good in english) am i or the child entitled to a form of (danyos)? or is she obliged to help the child aswell. parang nabaliktad po ako po yung humihinge ng payment for what she have done to the child. is there any provision or part of our law strengthening my side? i would greatly appreciate your precious replies thanks in advance.

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