My brother is married with 2 kids and had a relationship with a woman who is also married that had gone for 2 years and the lady specifically mentioned that she wanted to have a kid by my brother which he upfront said that he cannot provide because of financial issues unfortunately the and the lady is now pregnant.
the husband of the lady later find out and luckily never filed a case against my brother and the lady and had a talk and their agreement was not written in any signed document
that they want my brother to take ownership of the baby.
my brother then had told the lady that he can only support up to the best way that he can probably about 4K a month and could not go beyond that because he was the one taking care of the payables such as rent and utilities, not to mention his expenses on going to work. in a move to earn a bit more he transferred companies the lady is now under the impression that my brother is running away from the responsibility though they both know the fact that he acknowledge it to be his and willing to support the baby but not the way the lady wanted like getting a home separately for them and getting a household to help them out which my brother clearly cannot afford
and during the exchange of their text messages the lady mentioned that his husband said that he will support the kid but provided there will be no more communication between the lady and my brother and my brother will not see the kid, which was not accepted by the lady.
now the lady in 4-5 weeks time may give birth and is demanding again for support. my brother again mentioned he can only think of 2 things to settle this
1. he will support the baby up until to what he can afford to give
2. after giving birth he will take the baby and will be the one to raise it and no more communication between the lady and him because he wanted to correct his mistakes which the lady both refused and threatened to take it legally in terms of supporting the kid.
what can we do about this because clearly there is no denial or abandonment in the side of my brother but the lady is asking for more than what he can give.
please give us an advise on what to do because my brother is feeling harassed already by the lady who constantly demands to be supported,
and by the looks of things she wanted my brother to leave his family and just focus on supporting her which cannot be the case.
what can we do about this?