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Problem about our father, pls we need advice :(

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jtrish82


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Good day! Im 31 yrs.old, the youngest of the family. I have 3 elder siblings. I just want to ask some legal advice regarding our father whom we considered a big burden on our family. We lost our mother almost 3 yrs now & had our 72 yrs.old father. I am recently living in my older sis who got a child & had a foreign fiancé. My other 2 siblings were both married & had their own families living on their own. I am also engaged to a foreign guy & soon enough is getting married. My question is: our father wanted to ask money to us as payment for raising us as his kids. Is there such law in the Phils. regarding that thing? He always got mad & wanted to ask money all the time. We've known his friends are pushing him to do that & even adviced him to sue us so he can get money to the foreign guys ( me & my sis fiancés ). We're all matured enough & living on our own. We do respect him so much as our father but the thing that bothers us a lot & makes us worried is the way he is treating us. Everytime he's mad & asked money, he tried to threat us & even get knives saying he wanted to kill us. It really made me nervous & worst it developed me to have phobias & fears for always seeing him getting pointed things like knives & will try to hit us. He's old now & even got his highblood pressure. We did our best to take care of him coz we know it's our responsibilities as his kids. But asking money all the time & wanting our foreign fiancés to pay him as exchange of marrying us is just like selling us & it's sounds so stupid for us. We grew up having a parents who always quarrel even on small nonsense things. But when we lost our mother, we thought everything will be okay but our father seems very strange & very violent everytime he gets mad. I know our responsibilities but what about us as his kids? How can he expect respect from us that he don't even respect us & not even showing us to respect him? We're living in my sis house & it's all my sister's fiancé's money. It's been a long time my father lost his job but still we managed to live on a simple life coz we always told him we don't need to get rich but to live a simple, happy life. But we've seen that he wants more than anything else. He wanted to have his own house & lot & even to provide him a car. We're so much ashamed for his attitudes... Pls anyone can help me for whatever the best thing to do? My sis asked him to leave w/c he did by giving him money. He said he don't want to leave but my sis insist since it is her house & she don't want the way our dad treat us inside the house. He seems don't like other people to go inside the house even my other older sis, he's always mad at him. We just avoid him all the time but he always wanted to stirred up troubles & wanted us to get mad at him. He told many people that we're irresponsible kids & that we mistreated him. We don't understand why he's doing that... it's all lies. When he was about to hit me, I told him to stop it else I will forget he's my father. He said Im showing disrespect to him so I replied if he's a good father, why he always harassed us by doing such violent things? We're so scared to have him inside the house. My sis got a 6 yr.old son & so he told our father to move out... Right now it's been 4 days he's not home. We told him we'll find a place for him to stay & we'll pay the rent so he can have his own coz if we'll live together, it's always trouble. But he never agreed on us coz he said he wanted to sue us so we can pay him what he wanted us to pay... Such inhumane thinking. I just have heard that a father wanted his children to pay him back for raising him... Pls anyone who can give a good advice???

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jade law


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opo nasa batas po iyan. Civil Code Art.195. Intindihin nyo na lang ang ama nyo dahil matanda na po iyan at madamdamin. Baka kasi kuripot po kayo at wala kayong sustento at sapat na oras kausapin siya. Kausapin nyo na lang po siya. Nakakaramdam lang po iyan ng lungkot. Mahalin po natin ang ating magulang dahil dadaan din po tayo sa buhay na tayo naman ang sunod na makakaramdam ng kanyang nararamdaman..

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jtrish82


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jade law wrote:opo nasa batas po iyan. Civil Code Art.195. Intindihin nyo na lang ang ama nyo dahil matanda na po iyan at madamdamin. Baka kasi kuripot po kayo at wala kayong sustento at sapat na oras kausapin siya. Kausapin nyo na lang po siya. Nakakaramdam lang po iyan ng lungkot. Mahalin po natin ang ating magulang dahil dadaan din po tayo sa buhay na tayo naman ang sunod na makakaramdam ng kanyang nararamdaman..


Ipagpaumanhin mo po, pero salamat sa inyong reply. Sinasabi mo lng yan kasi hindi ikaw ang sa lugar naming magkakapatid. Ang kuripot na tinatawag, correct me if Im wrong ay yong may pera pero di nagbibigay. My apology, we are raised by a violent father. Lahat tiniis namin yon. We lost our mother na may hinanakit sa kanya after being an irresponsible father. We all graduated in college sa sariling sikap. We live on our own independently. Ikaw ba nasa lugar namin ay hahayaan lng na iharrass nang isang ama na kahit kelan ay di naman talaga nagging responsableng ama at asawa sa ina namin? Ikaw ba magkaroon nang ama na kahit katulong ay menomolestya? Lahat yon tinago namin para di kami mapahiya dahil kahit papaano ay ama pa rin namin sya. I appreciate your reply pero salamat, today we got a summon from the brgy. Doing such thing to us put us into shame. Hindi naman kami siguro laruan na ipinagbibili sa mga banyaga. nor we are not finding foreign men aiming to get rich or get a greencard. Kaya pagpaumanhin mo po, you don't know us kaya wag mo iparamdam sa akin na kami pa masamang mga anak. Kasi ako if one day I get married & have my own kids, ayokong palakihin sila at pag lumaki na ay sisingilin ko kung ano man ang nagastos ko. Para sa akin, being a responsible parent is not wanting to have something in return... Responsibilidad mo ang magpalaki ng mga anak, bihisan, pakainin, alagaan, pag-aralin... Pero di naman nababatay ang pagiging isang responsabling ama sa lahat ng mga iyan dahil hindi naman lahat nang magulang ay kayang ibigay lahat. Ang respeto sa mga anak ay para sa akin ay kailangan din. Hindi naman sa lahat nang oras ay hawak mo sa leeg, they get matured & have the right to have their own lives. We know our responsibilities as his children na kahit sa kabila nang mga kasalanan nya, nagawa pa namin syang takpan sa lahat para d lang mapahiya. Ang saktan kami nang walang rason ay iba siguro sa tinatawag mo na unawain ang matanda. Ikaw ba hahayaan mo lang ang sarili mo na saktan ka nang iyong ama na wla ka naming nagawang kamalian?

Again I would say my apology. maybe I got a wrong site but thank you...

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