Please help me on my issue. First I apologize about my long story..
Im a foreigner have a Filipino partner. I have been married before and separated. I need your esteem advice to my below query.
Me and my Filipino partner never married and have 2 kids. When she was pregnant with first child she lived in Manila and I got to know guys in her office touching her tummy. When I asked about her then first she declined and later accepted it is true. What I heard from her that these 2 guys her friends and they touch her tummy even she opposed for doing that and she claimed that Filipino guys like to touch pregnant woman tummy as it give luck to them. Also told me they are either comfortable to do it with her or they feel I am not around there. Both guys married and have kids.So I asked if they did with your opposed means they harass and abuse you and why you don’t complain them. She declined to complain. So I complained to her work place HR and they informed the result “As her fully aware with the incident case was closed”. Later I got to know she told inquiry panel it is not a big deal for her.
She was lived Manila with the child and I heard many things about her from her office mates. I had her office mates as friends thru Facebook and she didn’t like I communicate with them. But I decided once I see in my eyes and knew I believe those I heard. I financially helped her but didn’t visit since I got to know above incident.
I went manila seven months after she gave birth to child. She was stunned about my visit. While I stay there she went to work and I stayed home with the child. I see her behave so suspicious. One day I show her 2 pictures that she with 2 guys (one guy is involved touch her tummy as I mentioned above) and asked who are they. She replied both just her friends. I told her that now is the time to tell me if she have anything to tell me that happened here before I asked the things. She told me nothing happened. But after few attempts she started to tell a story with one of above mentioned guy>This guy openly ask to be with her and he is the Dad of the child when she was pregnant and after delivery he claimed can be child dad and invite her to do casual sex anytime if she open or if she upset with me. Then she told me if she not with me may be she with him. I asked her to send in writing about the said story and I have it now with me. So we had fought about this and finally I decided to complain to her work place. First she agreed with me and later she told me she will complain and prove her purity. So I gave her to do. First she wrote to guy asking about his feedback but I don’t what they exchange later. Finally she complained to him with my request. Company asked her reply for some of question (I have the email) but she hadn’t reply. Two month after I asked about the result of the complained then she told that she doesn’t know about that. Then I wrote to her work place HR about the result of the complained. They replied me that complain threw out and her included in all communication and she aware of the result. I realize she got to chance to complain from me to avoid truth coming out.
She thought I will leave her after this incident and asked another child she want from me. She got pregnant and we have another child. She started to live with me here country Im working and few months after I found some pics inside her external hard with guys that include above mentioned guy too and also sex videos using sex toys seems made same day she took picture with guys ( As she wear same cloths and same makeups)Above mentioned guy also holding her in that pics).Once she realized I got the things she tried to go back Manila taking all the things including all my disk drives, all documents I had about children including affidavits , All birth certificates and my personal documents. But I caught those before she leave and I took back to me.
Also I found she had lesbian relationship about 4 years just before me. Her lesbian partner suddenly started to publish pictures that got with her in her facebook.I got those pictures too.
When I got to know her hidden things I got affidavits for 2 kids that she agreed and no objection I bring children anytime out of Philippines and children can stay with me anytime too.She accepted the affidavit as a Legal document and affirmed not to breach this agreement. Eldest child stayed with me 2 months in my country without her. Now she is telling me she don’t want to share kids with me and kids live with her but asking my help. Also she has one of her Aunt living in another country and no kids involve with her so deeply about these children and advise her not to bring the kids to me or give to me.. One time I argued with her that telling her no business with my kids and she replied me she will take my children away from me definitely.
Still she lives with children in a rented house that I pay rent & other expenses. I have all proof that my financial & other help to her & children.
NOTE : I have all the evidence & proof with me what I mentioned above. Those are signed affidavits,pictures,videos, documents,messages,SMS,emails etc etc..
1. I accepted both child mine and I allow to use my surname. But I signed all the affidavit out of Philippines and didn’t notarized about my signature but she notarized our signed in Manila as we signed before lawyer. Is this legally valid?
2. As I have affidavits for both children that her agreed anytime I can bring children out of Philippine and children can stay with me and affirmed as a legal document and not to breach the agreement, do I have authority to bring kids and keep with me anytime? OR does she can refuse me do that AND what I can do with these affidavits?
3. Do I able to file a case against her in Philippine courts or anywhere that she cheated me, did adultery and prove her immorality to keep kids with her as I have proof that she did bad things while she pregnant and after given birth (Picture with the guy involve sexual communication and story that she wrote me, complain and reply emails about those incidents, Sex video even pregnant and related pictures?