im married for 5yrs now and have 3 daughters (6, 3 & 1). My husband is a Japanese. He is living here in phils, cebu with us. My problems atty are the ff:
1. I caught him via text from a girl in his celfone. I was able to retrieve the msg in his celfone even if he deleted it already. I just got curious with the text stated "im afraid to try it again", so nagpa as if ako na ang katext nya ay ang husband ko. I replied what she afraid of?. Sabe nya, about sa nangyare daw sa kanya before. I asked ano nangyare.. so inshort, nagka infection daw ung girl for a month of medication but ung sinabe lng daw nya sa husband ko is 1wk lng. And i asked when it happened, sabe nya about 1yr ago. So the the conversation ended coz nagising c hubby. I did not delete the messages para mabasa nya na alam ko na. So we talked and he admitted it. They made sex a few times daw and it only happened in a massage spa where he always go to. The girl is a masahista at that spa. Fyi, i caught him last march 2014. So gave him a chance coz he promise to show his best effort na hnd na nya gawin yun. I took photo nga pala sa conversation namen nung girl. So my question, pwd ko ba cya magamit as evidence? And sino pwd ko ma filan ng case? And anong case ang pwd ko ma file?
2. Just recently lang, mga sept he is so cold in our relationship na. So i asked why. He said he got a big problem with his mama in japan. Hnd na cya nakig communicate sa mama nya because he wants to stand on his own (his mom kase minsan tumutulong samen financially) and nahihiya na daw cya. That was his serious problem daw. Pro my problem atty is that, hnd cya nakipag sex sakin. Last sex namen was last october 2014 pa. Yun ung rason nya kng bakit hnd cya makapag concentrate na mag sex kami kase about sa prob nya.
3. I caught him again! Nagpa massage cya with out telling me.. we agreed kase na ayaw ko ng magpa massage cya not unless sasama nya ko pa massage kameng dlawa together. I have been observing him kase and i wonder lng why sometimes he takes shower when he got home and sometimes hinde. So one time, nag shower cya so i feel something na. So i smelled his boxer brief and it smells massage oil amd i found a little sperm on it. So we talked again about it, sabe nya hnd daw nya sinabe kase alam nya hnd ako papayag. This happened november 2014.
4. I caught him again! My husband plays poker, that night i asked my friend who is working in poker room were he played. I asked her if my husband was there, she said he was just playing. And so i asked her to message me if they end the game already.. so they ended 2:10am. So i estimated his time to arrive home. But he got home 4am na. So i asked him where he went. He just said he went to his friend's japanese ktv bar to spent money there because his friend always gave him a guests in our diveshop. And that time, his friend give a guests again. So i dont really believe in him.. i am so tired.
And also atty, he told me he has an ED (Erectile Dysfunction) thats why daw he cant make sex with me kase nahihiya cya sakin. So syempre ayoko maniwala sa kanya kase hnd nya na prove sakin yun. Hinde man lang cya nag try.
And now atty, i am so tired na. I want to separate with him and ask a financial support for the kids.
What should i do?