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1 Need Legal Advice on Sat Apr 04, 2015 8:59 am

MommyB


Arresto Menor
I am 33 years old and I have been legally married for 15 years. My husband I got married young and I am proud to say that we remained together for that long.
My Story: I am an unemployed mother and we have a son. I only work online which means na hindi stable ang kita ko. For these past 8 months, I have noticed a sudden change on my husband's habits. Weekly, hindi siya umuuwi ng bahay for 2-3 days, tulad ngayon wala siya since mahal na araw. Siyempre po, dumaan kami sa napakalalim na usapan sa loob ng mga buwan na to. Hindi ko po masasabing may kabit or may babae ang asawa ko dahil wala po akong pruweba. Pero hindi po puwede na uuwian niya lang ang pamilya niya kung kailan niya gusto. Kasalanan ko at tumakbo sa napakatagal na panahon itong ginagawa niyang ito pero kailangan ko nang lumaban. Obligasyon niya kaming mag-ina. Although wala akong gaanong alam tungkol sa Family laws, alam ko pa rin ang karapatan ko bilang asawa.

Hindi ko na po balak pauwiin pa sa aming tahanan ang asawa ko dahil sobra-sobrang emotional damage ang dulot ng ginawa niya sa amin sa napakahabang panahon. Pero hindi ko rin po kayang itaguyod ng mag-isa ang aming anak dahil wala po akong regular na trabaho, siya lang po kasi ang nagtatrabaho sa aming dalawa.

Paano po ba ang prosesong legal ang dapat kong gawin?

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2 Re: Need Legal Advice on Sat Apr 04, 2015 12:46 pm

centro


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Pagaralan po ang Republic Act 9262 o Anti-Violence Against Women and Their Children Act of 2004. Section 5 under (i) cites crime of violence against women and their children is committed through any of the following acts: "Causing mental or emotional anguish, public ridicule or humiliation to the woman or her child, including, but not limited to, repeated verbal and emotional abuse, and denial of financial support or custody of minor children of access to the woman's child/children."

Baka puedeng pagusapan, tapatan and counselling. Kung mayroon, pagaralan ang concubinage.

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3 Re: Need Legal Advice on Tue Apr 21, 2015 9:52 am

MommyB


Arresto Menor
Maraming salamat po. Saan po ba ko magsisimula? Sa kasalukuyan, nakikitira kami dahil sa biglaang pag aabandona sa amin ng aking asawa hindi na namin kayang magbayad ng bahay. Iniiwan ko po ang aking anak sa magulang ko para po makapaghanap ng trabaho.

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4 Re: Need Legal Advice on Tue Apr 21, 2015 10:18 am

MommyB


Arresto Menor
Dagdag ko lang po. Ipinanganak ko ang aming anak bago kami ikinasal. May isang taon na ang amin anak non time na napagpasyahan namin magpakasal na. Sa kasalukuyan, gamit ng aking anak ang apelyido ko pero sa birth cert ng akin anak, siya ang nakasulat na ama.

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5 Re: Need Legal Advice on Tue Apr 21, 2015 1:57 pm

LandOwner12


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wait,
no offence, curious lang po..
1. sa tinagal tagal nyo nagsasama, walang effort asawa mo na surname nya gamitin ng bata? if i were him, dapat right after the wedding.... sa side mo, wala man lang ba effort?
2. nakapirma ba sya sa B.C?
3. except this time na di nakabayad sa bahay, kelan nagstart nagkulang sa sustento?
4.paano naman ang emotional relationship, malamig na sya sa yo, sa bata, from each party?
5. this was the 1st time kamo, at biglaan change nya, nag usap kamo kayo,, umamin ba sya? ano result usapan nyo?

bakit kanyo..
kasi sabi mo nga, di mo naman kaya itaguyod mag isa anak mo, so if me option pa, dapat ayusin muna gusot bago kaso,,,
try to rekindle the lost relationship first..

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6 Re: Need Legal Advice on Tue Apr 21, 2015 2:00 pm

raheemerick


Reclusion Perpetua
o kaya ako na lng mag bayad ng rent Smile

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7 Re: Need Legal Advice on Tue Apr 21, 2015 4:34 pm

concepab


Reclusion Perpetua
My suggestion is concentrate on demanding for financial support. kasi kung magsasampa ka ng kaso, ikaw din ang mahihirapan. Ikaw na din ang nag-sabi na financially unstable ka pa.

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8 Pre-arranged Marriage on Fri Apr 24, 2015 10:30 am

khaye0917


Arresto Menor
Dear Legal,
Seeking for your best advise, we were married since 2010 pero pre-arranged lang iyon ng parents ng "husband" ko dahil may isa na kaming anak na naka apelyido sa kanya, may kakilala lang sila sa munisipyo tapos nagbigay ng form na pinapirmahan sa mga sponsor at magulang namin tapos binayaran, just to formalize kasi naglive in na kami simula ng mabuntis, then ayun na may Marriage Cert na, ipinasok sa NSO, ok na, nagpakasal kami "ulit" sa totoong pari naman then sabi nung Simbahana na yung nasa NSO daw naming na pari eh wala sa record nila, just to formalize and I-grant yung request ng lola ni husband na sa simbahan ay nagpakasal kami pero sabi nung pari ay hindi nya ipapasok sa NSO dahil meron na kami na nauna, kumbaga para may ceremony lang.
Madalas po ang di naming pagkakasundo, di pag iimikan dahil na din sa hindi pa siguro hinog na mga pag iisip at may "say" pa din ang parents ni husband kapag may problema. Lagi sya nagkokonsulta dun na hindi ko naman nagugustuhan dahil nagiging dependent sya, matanda na kami, almost 30, lagi na lang ganun, di ko na nagugustuhan ang mga pangyayari so I decided to go back to my parents together with the kid (5y/o). Meron po akong trabaho at above minimum naman po, Meron po kami kinuha na bahay pero ayoko na habulin sabi ko ituloy nya na lang hulog, pati sasakyan sa kanya na, lahat ng naipundar sa kanya na, Ano po ba ang mga legal na karapatan ko? ano po ba ang dapat gawin ko para mapawalang bisa yung kasal? Pwede ko ba ipahiram yung bata sa kanya ng umaga tapos ibabalik nya ng hapon? Pwede din ba na bibisita lang sya at di nya kukunin ang bata? Pwede ko ba ipalipat apelyido ng bata sa akin? Need you inputs po, Maraming maraming salamat po

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9 Re: Need Legal Advice on Fri Apr 24, 2015 10:44 am

raheemerick


Reclusion Perpetua
conjugal ang property nyo pero ikaw ang may kusa na sa kanya na yun. thoug verbally lng. but in legal is may rights ka don kc napundar nyo yun ng habang nag sasama kau bilang mag asawa.

about sa bata, below 7 years old is nasa mother ang full rights and custody. unless sa ilang bagay kung wlang kakayanan ang mother financially and mentally.

the father have the visitations rights and sustain the child. though wlang actual calculation how much wud be the sustento? depende yun sa need ng bata ar sa capability ng father if im not mistaken.

regarding naman sa kasal mo if like mo mapawalang bisa? file annulment.. see to it lng na may grounds na magagamit for this and financialy fit ka to hire a private lawyer. or pwde ding pa review mo marital history mo for some grounds naman to file a petition to declare void ang kasal mo if sakaling may iregularities sa naunang kasal.

some ref to study:

Psychological incapacity of one of the parties to a contract of marriage is merely one of the legal bases for filing a petition for declaration of absolute nullity of marriage before the courts. There are other legal grounds set under the law for filing the said petition. For instance, Article 35 of Executive Order No. 209, otherwise known as the Family Code of the Philippines, enumerates six causes for having a marriage be declared void from the beginning

1. when a marriage is contracted by any party below eighteen (18) years of age even with the consent of parents or guardians

2. when a marriage is solemnized by any person not legally authorized to perform marriages, unless such marriage was contracted with either or both parties believing in good faith that the solemnizing officer had the legal authority to do so

3. when a marriage is solemnized without license, except those covered under Title I, Chapter 2 of the Family Code

4. when a marriage is bigamous or polygamous and not falling under Article 41

5. when a marriage is contracted through mistake of one contracting party as to the identity of the other

6. a subsequent marriage which is void under Article 53.


i believe na may available na ground sayo jan

goodluck!!

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10 Re: Need Legal Advice on Fri Apr 24, 2015 12:09 pm

LandOwner12


Reclusion Perpetua
@khaye0917,
karagdagan lang sa suggestion ni RaheemErik,

wag mo isuko ang rights mo sa properties, ang hirap ng buhay now. maraming naghahabol sa court sa kakarampot na shares. ikaw pati sasakyan binibigay mo...
mag file ka ng legal separation, para legal na mahati ang properties nyo at makuha mo nararapat na sa yo..

then, regarding sa surname ng bata, gaano ba kalaki ang difference kung dala nya name ng tatay( sorry di ko lang ma dig deeper ano significance)..
, at the end of the day, tatay pa rin nya yon, at meron din sya right at pwede pagdating ng panahon eh c anak ang magdecide ano gusto nya gawin regarding name, relationship, etc....
saka, di lang yong right mo ang isusuko mo pag nataon, pati right ni anakis mo..
again,, remember, life is full of surprises..and the future is not always what we expect them to be... malay natin... sabi mo nga, di pa hinog mga pag-iisip nyo now, baka at the end, kayo uli. wag padalos dalos..




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11 Re: Need Legal Advice on Fri Apr 24, 2015 1:53 pm

khaye0917


Arresto Menor
Thank you so much for enlightening siguro nga po time will tell if we were meant to be talaga, thank you so much dahil kanina I'm in a blurred picture pa, hope you continue helping other people. God bless po

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12 Re: Need Legal Advice on Fri Apr 24, 2015 2:53 pm

MommyB


Arresto Menor
Good day and I am back. I have been reading about RA 9262 and this has given me the strength to fight for e and my son's rights.

Regarding the questions: Yes, he is named as the father of our child on my son's birth certificate. We have been dealing with financial issues since the very beginning. We were still in college when we got married and we both strive so hard to get through it. He WAS consistent with the support. Being married young, we had a lot of fights. He cheated, I forgave. He cheated and I forgive again. But this stopped according to my "wife instincts." We were not having marital issues for that long, just problems with the expenses so I decided to work at home as a freelance web developer. Honestly, it is not that much. it is just enough to help pay the bills. But then, since October last year, there's been a sudden change on his behavior. He started coming home late every Saturday without letting me know where he is. We fought about it. I told him to atleast let me know where he is. When he does this every week, I worry too much but then, the worried feeling turned into anger because he does it every week and there are times that he won't come home for a few days. I tried to ask. Tried to settle the issue with him and I believed him. Until one time, I decided to visit him at his work. He got so mad at me for doing it. I never go to his workplace unless I am told so but it was a surprise visit. I never saw anything suspicious but I felt something was odd because of how he reacted. Then, another week came and I visited him again. Same reaction, he was mad. That was the last time I went to his office, that was the last thing we fought about and the following week, Saturday, he never came home until now. It felt horrible. And during that time, my father had a cardiac arrest and he's still in the hospital until now. I decided to live with them because I can no longer afford the bills, the food if we will stay at our home. He rang me a few times, asking me like what he did was just normal. because my mind is still confused with all the things going on with my father and our problem, I was speechless on the phone. He rang after a few days and that's the time I told him that we needed money to buy food and pay the people that we owe to because when he was gone, I borrowed money from friends to pay the bills and extra money. He told me he does not money. Payday came, I tried to ring him and same words he told me, that he has no money. I tried convincing him to come home or even just to talk about this problem in some private place but he never came as he promised. I dropped a few pounds on my body since that the he left us. I cry for no apparent reason even while in public. Only this week that I finally have the guts to seek help. yes, I am always open for reconciliation and I hope everyday that he finds it in his heart to face this problem and we can deal with it as husband and wife, but it never happened. This all happened the first week of April so right now, I admit I am stilll emotionally unstable but I am trying hard to get by each day.

I heard that he's living with this particular male friend near his work and when I tried to contact that friend, he won't tell the address nor he won't relay the message I have for my husband. The only means I know I can reach out to him is sending a demand letter to his office address but I am afraid this will make matters worst. I am so hoping that if we can't live together anymore, he'd still be able to provide for us because I cannot work as a regular employee in an office because of a minor health condition.

The reason, HIS reason for abandoning us is according to him he does not want me visiting his work. For 5 years he worked in that company, I never visited him. I only know his office buddies because they do invite me in social gatherings. I am the wife who stays home and just attends to the family's needs. We were even planning to have a baby this year, I never really thought this will happen and until now, I am in shock.

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13 Re: Need Legal Advice on Fri Apr 24, 2015 6:20 pm

LandOwner12


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@mommyB,
oh oh oh,
i am seeing a typical martyr here...
anyways mukha ngang meron, pero di ko matukoy kung naging gay ba sya or what,
remember, pwede sya maging Bi...
one ground pa yan...
i understand what you are going through, keep holding on,,ganyan talaga ang buhay, minsan maraming pagsubok..

kung kulang sa pinansyal, meron PAO, considering low income ka, pasok ka bilang indigent.

cheers

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14 Re: Need Legal Advice on Fri Apr 24, 2015 7:03 pm

MommyB


Arresto Menor
LandOwner12 wrote:@mommyB,
oh oh oh,
i am seeing a typical martyr here...
anyways mukha ngang meron, pero di ko matukoy kung naging gay ba sya or what,
remember, pwede sya maging Bi...
one ground pa yan...
i understand what you are going through, keep holding on,,ganyan talaga ang buhay, minsan maraming pagsubok..

kung kulang sa pinansyal, meron PAO, considering low income ka, pasok ka bilang indigent.

cheers

I no longer expect something, just support from him for my son because he'll be in college this coming school year. I will also need his help so that I have enough money to find a job so that I may be able to keep up with our basic needs. Me and my son have a genetic health condition that needs medicine for maintenance that's why I desperately need his help.

Thank you for all the advise...
Right now, I am still coping but hopefully, I will be able to overcome this.

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15 Re: Need Legal Advice on Sat Apr 25, 2015 7:48 am

MommyB


Arresto Menor
Today I have received a text from his PAGIBIG stating that his loan has been granted and it has been credited to his bank. While me and my kid is borrowing money from friends and relatives, he's receiving his load and it's not just a small amount.

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16 Re: Need Legal Advice on Sat Apr 25, 2015 4:39 pm

plapla


Arresto Menor
Sa edad na 17 ang anak Kong bunso na lalaki ay nagkaroon ng anak na babae sa kasing edad din nya. Kami ang nagbayad sa hospital at apelyido ng anak KO any gamit ng bata.

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17 Re: Need Legal Advice on Sat Apr 25, 2015 4:44 pm

LandOwner12


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ano pong concern nyo?

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18 Re: Need Legal Advice on Sat Apr 25, 2015 4:48 pm

plapla


Arresto Menor
Sa edad na 17 ang anak Kong bunso na lalaki ay nagkaroon ng anak na babae sa kasing edad din nya. Kami ang nagbayad sa hospital at apelyido ng anak KO ang gamit ng bata. Sa ngayon mag 2 years old na ang bata. Nung maayos pa ang relasyon ng 2 bata nahihiram pa namin ang baby. Kasi parehong menor de edad at walang trabaho napagkasunduan naming mga magulang ng bata na Hindi magsasama ang dalawang bata at tutulong kami sa pagpapalaki sa baby. Habang lumalaki ang baby napansin KO na nagdedemand na ang magulang ng babas na sustentohan ng anak KO angya.

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19 Re: Need Legal Advice on Sat Apr 25, 2015 4:48 pm

plapla


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Sa edad na 17 ang anak Kong bunso na lalaki ay nagkaroon ng anak na babae sa kasing edad din nya. Kami ang nagbayad sa hospital at apelyido ng anak KO ang gamit ng bata. Sa ngayon mag 2 years old na ang bata. Nung maayos pa ang relasyon ng 2 bata nahihiram pa namin ang baby. Kasi parehong menor de edad at walang trabaho napagkasunduan naming mga magulang ng bata na Hindi magsasama ang dalawang bata at tutulong kami sa pagpapalaki sa baby. Habang lumalaki ang baby napansin KO na nagdedemand na ang magulang ng babas na sustentohan ng anak KO angya.

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20 Re: Need Legal Advice on Sat Apr 25, 2015 4:57 pm

LandOwner12


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ano po bang long term plans nyo?
from both sides?
magpapakasal b cla? when?
pwede na clang ikasal basta merong basbas ng both parents?
as of now, meron nang right sa sustento ang apo nyo, ang question dito eh, capability ng anak nyo para sa sustento...

kamusta naman ang relasyon ng both parties?

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