Good day and I am back. I have been reading about RA 9262 and this has given me the strength to fight for e and my son's rights.
Regarding the questions: Yes, he is named as the father of our child on my son's birth certificate. We have been dealing with financial issues since the very beginning. We were still in college when we got married and we both strive so hard to get through it. He WAS consistent with the support. Being married young, we had a lot of fights. He cheated, I forgave. He cheated and I forgive again. But this stopped according to my "wife instincts." We were not having marital issues for that long, just problems with the expenses so I decided to work at home as a freelance web developer. Honestly, it is not that much. it is just enough to help pay the bills. But then, since October last year, there's been a sudden change on his behavior. He started coming home late every Saturday without letting me know where he is. We fought about it. I told him to atleast let me know where he is. When he does this every week, I worry too much but then, the worried feeling turned into anger because he does it every week and there are times that he won't come home for a few days. I tried to ask. Tried to settle the issue with him and I believed him. Until one time, I decided to visit him at his work. He got so mad at me for doing it. I never go to his workplace unless I am told so but it was a surprise visit. I never saw anything suspicious but I felt something was odd because of how he reacted. Then, another week came and I visited him again. Same reaction, he was mad. That was the last time I went to his office, that was the last thing we fought about and the following week, Saturday, he never came home until now. It felt horrible. And during that time, my father had a cardiac arrest and he's still in the hospital until now. I decided to live with them because I can no longer afford the bills, the food if we will stay at our home. He rang me a few times, asking me like what he did was just normal. because my mind is still confused with all the things going on with my father and our problem, I was speechless on the phone. He rang after a few days and that's the time I told him that we needed money to buy food and pay the people that we owe to because when he was gone, I borrowed money from friends to pay the bills and extra money. He told me he does not money. Payday came, I tried to ring him and same words he told me, that he has no money. I tried convincing him to come home or even just to talk about this problem in some private place but he never came as he promised. I dropped a few pounds on my body since that the he left us. I cry for no apparent reason even while in public. Only this week that I finally have the guts to seek help. yes, I am always open for reconciliation and I hope everyday that he finds it in his heart to face this problem and we can deal with it as husband and wife, but it never happened. This all happened the first week of April so right now, I admit I am stilll emotionally unstable but I am trying hard to get by each day.
I heard that he's living with this particular male friend near his work and when I tried to contact that friend, he won't tell the address nor he won't relay the message I have for my husband. The only means I know I can reach out to him is sending a demand letter to his office address but I am afraid this will make matters worst. I am so hoping that if we can't live together anymore, he'd still be able to provide for us because I cannot work as a regular employee in an office because of a minor health condition.
The reason, HIS reason for abandoning us is according to him he does not want me visiting his work. For 5 years he worked in that company, I never visited him. I only know his office buddies because they do invite me in social gatherings. I am the wife who stays home and just attends to the family's needs. We were even planning to have a baby this year, I never really thought this will happen and until now, I am in shock.