Hello there. I have an annulment case that is yet to be filed this week. I'm filing an annulment case against my husband on the grounds of psychological incapacity. We have been married for more than 20 years and throughout those years he was a gambler, alcoholic and drug user. We had a child a year after our marriage but he died of brain tumor before he became 4 years old. I have done everything to save our marriage (marriage counselling, Couples for Christ, Marriage Encounter seminars/retreats, psychological/psychiatrical consultation on his part)but to no avail... Finally I had the courage to leave the house last year but he sold everything in it including my personal belongings. I was then convinced that I had to push through with the annulment.Sometime last year he was jailed for illegal drugs possession but was set free after working it out with the police. A few months after I left the house I met someone, we fell in love and I became pregnant. I have used my legal husband's family name on the birth certificate of the baby considering the benefits I will get from my employer.
My dilemna is:
1.Am I right to use my legal husband's surname in the birth certificate. I left the father's name blank.I have registered the BC at the Civil registrar since my employer requires a registered BC for my benefits claim. Will it be automatically registered at the NSO?
2. How about in the baptismal certificate, can I use my maiden's name or the surname of his real father?
I am worried not only on the fact that my legal husband might be able to secure a copy of the BC at the NSO and use it against me and more so about the complication my child has to go through by the time he goes to school or in case we will travel abroad in the future.. Please help me. Thanks.