This ex-lover of mine portrayed himself to be a very responsible family man and someone who is strong-willed, driven, and has a take-charge attitude. He was the one who boosted my morale then when I was falling out of love with my husband who I viewed then as irresponsible and weak.
our affair was very low-key and discreet. However I was always seized by guilt, because despite my hubby's apparent weakness of character, he was very loving towards me and our kids. Several times I made attempts to break off with the other guy but everytime I did, he would flare up and threaten to reveal our relationship. He would viciously attack me through text messages and threaten to leave my handwritten messages around the office for all the world to see. He would only calm down when I agree to meet with him to talk it out. And invariably these "talks" would end up in private rooms where we'd end up in bed again, and so it went for some 11 years. A cycle of peace-hate-peace. The peace being that he would only give me peace if I stayed in the relationship with him.
Two years ago, I decided to stop altogether. Of course he got very angry again, saying the most abusive languages to me, always threatening to reveal our relationship. It got to the point that he emailed me my pictures which he took while we were in a private room. He threatened to send them to my hubby's email address. He is threatening to post them in Facebook.
The only thing that will make him stop is if I go out with him again. But I am decided now to mend my ways and never go back to this adulterous relationship. What do I do to stop him, without revealing my big sin to my husband, and without revealing it my ex-lover's wife as well. I just want to quietly straighten my life, without scandalizing anyone and hurting many people along the way.