My wife met a man through the Intermet. He claimed to be separated from his wife and they eventually met and had sex on numerous occasions in the Philippines and in Hong Kong. He told my wife he loved her and suggested many plans for their future. Over one year he managed to persuade my wife to rent a flat for him, buy a car for him as well as send him money regularly and pay for his trips. Investigation of him by me revealed he is married and living with his wife and they had a daughter born during the relationship with my wife. Almost everything he told my wife about his status and background were lies. I filed for divorce with him named as the adulterer - but my wife asked me to withdraw the proceedings which I have done - but the damage to our family has been terrible. I wish to ask do I have a case against him either for criminal deception (estafa?) or a civil case for return of the money / value of what he received from my wife. My wife had her own job but also had an allowance from me - I treat the money she earned and received as conjugal money - so believe I may be able to report a criminal deception (estafa?) or bring civil proceedings myself (my wife is reluctant /too embarrassed to bring action herself). I would be grateful for advice.