I am legally married with an 8 year old child under my care. My husband has been working in Japan for 7 years and he is a permanent resident there. Last year, I found out through email that he is having an affair with a Filipina also married to a Brazilian with permanent resident visa in Japan too. My husband admitted the affair and asked for apology. I asked him to come home for a few days so we can talk about it but refuses to come home (it has already been 7 months after I found out). He asked for an apology over the phone and promised not to do it again. The problem is the woman has been consistently calling me for the past few months -overseas from Japan-telling me off, cursing at me, calling me desperate. I told my husband about these calls and he called me "sinungaling, nagiimbento" at minura mura pa ako. They are both in Japan and the woman has been flaunting via posts on the internet and when she calls me with a different number about their affair and telling me to leave my husband.
It has been so stressful for the past few months. The woman's calls and the way my husband talks to me on the phone has been causing so much pain. My husband never tried or made an effort to make amends. He has consistently been raising his voice at me and blames me for everything. The most hurtful statement which he said was, "ikaw ang may kasalanan kung bakit tayo nagkakaganito--hindi ka marunong". He even shouted at my mother last week accusing me "hindi marunong magpatawad" at "hindi makaintindi".
I want out because it is causing sleepless nights already--hindi na ho ako makahinga. But I want both of them to be dragged in this--especially the kabit na walang decency.
Please please advise. Thanks.