Hope you can help and this is my case..
I'm a wife of a seafarer. We had 1 child which is 2 years and 9 months now. We are married now for 4 years but on the 3rd year, I've filed a case against him - RA 9262 and was dismissed.
I was battered by him forcing me to get out of our rented house (leaving there with his mother and his sister's daughter) and getting my cp forcely because i've forwarded the texts of his mistress (kabit) there.
I did everything for 3 years because I'd loved him. I'd loved his family also. He is a mama and ate's boy as others also say.We're not leaving as one family though our relationship was better until the time that he had other woman which is his coworker in the ship and i just discovered through text and confirmation from our friends in same ship.
I still accepted him but he doesn't want to live with me anymore. He said that we need space and i need to leave our rented house. It came to a point he forcely got me out of the room and came to dragged me and threw me which my head almost hit the wall (I know God saves me)...Those seens happened twice. I got bruises in arms. But I decided not to undergo medical examination because I really love him that time and didn't want to drag his name to bad record.
But he continued refusing to be with me and to give adequate support. I gave a letter to OWWA demanding his support. He replied dismissing the letter and no other actions done from his agency and OWWA.
So I decided to file a case against him which is the violation of RA 9262. Prior to the case, we had a conversation with HIS LAWYER and he said that he will give support of 10,000 which I think is not enough and I refused to because he lied to the lawyer with regard to our newly purchased lot. His sister always help him to fight. He even declared that our purchased lot was her sister's since the transfer is presently on going at the time of the case and they know the persons committed and we used her check in payment (which I forgot to change).Though it was purchased 5 months before our marriage, As married couple, we paid for it for 2 and half years.
The case was dismissed due to lack of merit because I don't have a medical cert and they even believed the lies my husband stated. He refused to indicate me in his allotment which in the resolution stated that he was not. The lie that I always nags him when he was in the ship is also in the resolution. I wonder why (no evidence given).
The case filed on April 2011 and dismissed distributed on August 31, 2011. I don't have a lawyer but he had. The fact that he first got the resolution though I always go to the prosecutor's office from June 1 to August 26th. The resolution date is July 16.
His Watch List Order was cancelled and abled to work abroad again last Sept 2010. He didn't declare me as his allotee (w/ in contrary to the resolution). After 8 months, he started to give money worth P5,000 on November 2010 and P4,000 monthly. But that's not enough though I'm working now. He earned P50,000 monthly though he needs to support his mother also, that money is not enough for his child. Mostly needed starting this coming month because I need to hire a nanny that will take care of my son because my mother will start to accompany and fetch my niece at school. More expenses will incur especially in food, electricity, etc.
Came to a point that I need to file loans from Pag-ibig and SSS to payback loans from other for past expenses.
What shall I do. From Sept. 2010 until now, he didn't even text me or call me even to ask how's our son. I know that he is here in the Phils now. Only yesterday he arrived.
Please advise. I don't think demand letter will force him to increase his support.