I believe I am the best parent, I do not own my own property but can give my son a better life than living in 1 room with 11 other people with no running water, deep well showers, and a mother who "forgets" to dress him when on the beach except for briefs as she was "busy swimming and forgot him" (leaving him alone sleeping in the sun). He is light skinned as I am. He came to me burned bright red, and 1 week later skin was falling off him in lumps !
She openly threatens him with her slipper in public and I have often told her not to do it (she also stated in Court I was abusing our son and keeps threatening me with deportation for abuse if I don't "keep my mouth shut"
I know she does not spend the 5000 on him, since I have been paying, she has only bought him 1 pair of plastic slippers and always tells me when he needs new clothes as she knows I will pay. She is now running an Avon business and had gone into debt to buy him new clothes to show off she can afford him clothes. But she always has new manicure/pedicure, new hair cut and fashion accessories. I feel she is using the money for herself and her family.
I feel she is now causing myself and my son phycological abuse by keep changing the routine and her attitude .. What is good one week is no good the next ... I feel depressed because now from today I hear nothing about the welfare of my son until I see him next Saturday morning. She snatched him so roughly from me this morning he cried and whinced with pain !!! Every time I say anything, it is always "Lets go to the police because your harrassing me" or "Let's go to Immigration and get you deported" .. I fear every knock on my door in case she wakes up one morning and decides today is the day she ruins my life here. I am British, which makes my son automatically British by decent, I have Immigrant status and have been here 4 years non stop.
What can I do to try to gain custody of my son ? I know the "7yr old" rule but feel in this case it should not apply because not only myself, but friends of mine also see how she is and have said she should not be allowed to have a son and be like she is. She has constantly broken the Court Order because she is supposed to turn up at 9am (her decision in Court), she is never here before 10am stating "9am is too early" but she is never late to collect him.
However the police refused to blotter it even it is stated in the Order. Saturday she arrived at 9am for the first time maybe realising I have had enough and I am going to do something about it if I can so she can say she is "changing".
Can I file for unfit mother ? She is unemployed and I notice this and neglect are 2 reasons she can be deemed as unfit. I have more details if required
Many thanks of any advice you can give me